What's your standard ?

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 I really don’t understand why it is our problem if someone doesn't find us beautiful or appealing. If someone doesn't like the way we look it's their problem, not ours. And it's not us who should be dealing with those mean and unrealistic comments by some random people. They are the ones who should be ashamed of their sick mentality and their stupid hypothesis about how a person should look. 

We all are beautiful even if no one says so. Because beauty doesn't rely upon someone's validation.  It's not our duty to fit into the stupid rulebook of how we should look.  

Perfect body(precisely: 36,24,36) and flawless skin is too much glorified in today's world that we have lost the mere touch of positivity and endearment of the soul.

Commenting on someone’s physical appearance is way too normalized which is absolute insanity. If you don’t like something about someone’s physical appearance. Please keep it to yourself because it’s your problem and you have no right to make someone detest themselves by passing unnecessarily mean comments and judgments about their appearance.

And don’t give anyone any suggestion regarding their appearance until and unless they are asking for it. Trust me an unsolicited suggestion is the worst thing especially when it comes to someone's physical appearance. Your intentions might be clean but not the same with a person. That person might have been fighting with the stigma of beauty standards for a long long time and your single comment can give them a lifelong scar.

Shaming triggers body dysmorphia, anxiety, anorexia, and low self-esteem in a person. So it's paramount to think before commenting anything about someone’s appearance.

It's preposterous that many people I have met don’t like at least something about my physical appearance whether it be my body weight, acne, facial structure and the list goes on and on. It troubled me for a long time. I was so afraid to embrace the soul inside my not-so-perfect body. I always trivialized that I am not me because of my body or physical appearance. It was always about what’s inside and how I am.

It stopped bothering me as soon as I ascertained that it's not my responsibility to impress anyone with the way I look. If they don't like dark circles below my eyes that's their problem and if they don't like acne on my face that's again their problem and it's not my job to solve their problems.

If I want to bring change in my physical appearance. That should be only because I want to or my freedom as an individual to do anything not because society or anyone wants me to.

And if I don’t want any of the physical changes. That is also completely okay and no one has the right to judge or even comment on any decision I make as a grown woman.

Lastly, we all are beautiful irrespective of how we appear because ultimately it’s all about what’s inside. We all have the individual standard of our beauty and the differences make us who we are(one in a billion).

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